Dear Tonia,

I think that you are missing out on some of the most important turn-offs for women. You are focusing on the superficial, the outer appearance, instead of the essence of what matters between a man and a woman. For instance, one of the biggest turnoffs in a man is the lack of self-sufficiency, a man who cannot take care of himself financially, physically, and spiritually. And there are a lot of men out there like that nowadays, men that are dependent, men that are looking for a free ride. Ahhh, What a HUGE turn-off!!
Elisabeth

Everyones interpretation of what matters in a relationship is different. I agree that everything you said is a real turn off for most women however, some women prefer to be the care takers and some are unable to see the obvious. Unfortunately,  these women have provided those men with the option of relying on them. They either want control of the relationship, don’t care about those issues, or are bidding time. Some women with low self esteem who lack self worth and are willing to put up with it rather than be alone.  Sadly, I know many women in that position. That is why I am in the business of empowering women.
Men like that are usually good at finding women who they can charm or dance around making promises they can’t keep. And just to be fair, there are many women who are like that as well. Rather than learn how to be self sufficient,  they  look for a man to take care of them. I am not one who judges a book by its cover. No one knows what really goes on behind closed doors. After all, who are we to say what works well between two people. It’s about satisfying each others needs, whether on a conscious or unconscious level.  I suppose what’s good for the goose is also good for the gander.