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Archive for the ‘Making a Good Impression’ Category
For All the Single Ladies
Thursday, February 3rd, 2011
People, especially men, assume who you are by the way you dress and treat you accordingly. The first rule is choosing the appropriate outfit for the occasion. Find out where you are going and get a feel for how other women would usually dress in that environment. Don’t copy them, just get an idea of what you might see, then choose clothing that reveals your true or desired persona.
Don’t show too much skin. Less is always more. There’s a fine line between classy and trashy. You will look sexier in a classy outfit rather than a trashy one and you will be sending the right message. Your goal is to attract men but not encourage a sexual invitation. Men are driven by their hormones and only need to see a little bare skin to feel motivated. Revealing too much will attract a lot of men, but the wrong men. Remember you are just looking to attract the right man. You only want to allure and arouse his curiosity or interest. Men are hunters and are wired to enjoy challenges. Provide that to get the results you desire.
The colors you wear are important as well. Wearing your best colors will dramatically enhance how you look and how others relate to you. If you are trying to attract a man always dress feminine and never wear deep red or burgundy. Strong colors will not make you look unapproachable and will scare him away. Shades of pink are very inviting to a man and work for many completions. Wearing a little red in your accessories is okay. It looks sexy but not intimidating. Stay away from yellow and certain greens that change your skin tone or can tend to make you appear sallow.
Showing your bare legs, neck and ears will signal your availability but won’t invite a sexual attack. High-heeled shoes are very sexy but make sure you can walk properly as you don’t want to appear awkward or uncomfortable.
Be yourself and don’t put on airs. You want to attract someone who likes you for who you really are. Don’t try to be what you feel they want you to be. Just be the fabulous you that you are.
Men get a lot of satisfaction from just looking at a woman. They love when a woman smiles, shows her feminine curves, and appears confident. In your first encounter, don’t discuss your “baggage”, complain about your ex, or put yourself down. It’s a big turn off. Images of flipping your hair, wiggling your butt, or bouncing boobs will leave a lasting impression for a man… well at least for several days. Be selective. Good choices will produce long successful, happy relationships. Never settle. It’s better to be alone, than wish you were.
Tags: attracting men, colors, less is more, single, what's appropriate
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What is Appropriate To Wear To a Funeral?
Monday, November 1st, 2010
Dear Tonia, After attending several funerals in the past few months and seeing everything from suits to blue jeans to “sexy” club wear, I was appalled and felt compelled to write. I just can’t believe how people dress today! It’s so disrespectful not to dress properly. So please tell your readers what is appropriate to wear to a funeral, maybe some just don’t know better.
Catherine, Poughkeepsie, NY
Funerals are respectful occasions, and part of being respectful is dressing appropriately. Dressing appropriately for the service is important because it shows respect for the deceased and for the other loved ones attending the service. Age and position in the family should dictate a higher degree of dress.
Wearing strictly black no longer applies unless you are a family member. Traditional colors like navy, purple, gray, and earth tones, work well.
Although a person’s death should be grieved, it is appropriate to celebrate the person’s life with a subdued color. It is also nice to wear what the person who passed would have liked to see us in.
Denim and athletic wear may be comfortable or appropriate for casual activities but should never be worn to a wake or a funeral. Shorts or sandals are never acceptable. Wear what is tasteful and conservative.
A sexy dress, even in black is not appropriate. The most important thing women should remember when dressing is not to wear anything too tight or low-cut. Not only is it disrespectful, but you also look trashy. You want to be remembered as being supportive to the family not for what you wore.
The rule for skirts and dresses is knee length or longer. Think basic simple pencil skirt, trouser, or a suit like you were going on an interview for a job. It is acceptable to wear dress pants with a nice top although wearing a jacket will pull the outfit together. Your shoulders should be covered for some churches.
Keep your jewelry and accessories simple, traditional, and to a minimum. Your shoes should be in a subdued or dark color and not show your toes. Keep make up understated.
Men should wear a sport coat or a dark suit paired with a white or subdued color shirt and a solid color tie or a conservative pattern. Your socks should match the color of your pants and your belt should match your shoes. Your shoes should be polished.
No matter what creed or culture you follow, a funeral is a somber occasion that demands a certain level of conservative dress. At the end of the day, your being there is all that really counts, as I learned. More importantly, this is no time for people to be judgmental. But for your own peace of mind, it’s nice to not have to think about it, know you’re ready to go, and that you can devote your energies to grieving — or celebrating — a life.
Tags: Appropriate Dress, Club Wear, Funeral Attire, Sexy Black
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The Top 10 Things Men Do That Turn Women Off
Tuesday, May 18th, 2010
Men, we love you and there are lots of things you do that turn us on but here are the top ten things that turn us off.
1 Wear socks with sandals. It’s looks really nerdy and extremely unattractive especially flip flops with socks.
2 Hand gestures are very rude, especially the v gesture. They are all highly offensive to women and a guaranteed turn off to any woman.
3 No sagging pants. We don’t think it’s sexy or cool to show your underwear or a peeping crack. It’s tasteless. Wear a belt.
4 Fast cars are cool but don’t trick them out too much. It looks stupid unless it’s a show car on a professional track.
5 Tweezing your eye brows, even if you are body builder, it looks too feminine.
Not that uni-brows are attractive, but sculptured brows are too much, especially if they look better that ours.
6 Too may tattoos are a turn off unless your woman adorns many herself.
If we want to see all that art work, we’ll go to a gallery. Most women prefer to see a clean body which shows off muscles rather well.
7 Age gracefully. Don’t act or dress like you are twenty if you are not.
Wearing your baseball cap backwards when you are over 30 makes you look immature. Too much plastic surgery screams how insecure you feel. Wrinkles and graceful aging shows wisdom and confidence and there’s nothing sexier than a man with confidence.
8 Don’t dye your hair black, especially shoe polish black. Black looks fake and is too hard on the face. Try dark brown or let some gray come through. It looks debonair and sophisticated. You are better off going to color stylist than using cheap box hair dye and don’t forget a great updated haircut.
9 Chewing tobacco is gross. It smells and tastes bad. Woman won’t kiss a man who chews tobacco. It yellows your teeth and that lump on the side of your mouth looks weird.
10 Don’t talk about your ex or complain about her. If you are trashing your ex, we’ll know you’re gonna trash us as well. It’s classless. We also don’t want to hear about your bitter divorce, especially when we first meet or in the beginning of the relationship. We just don’t want to hear it. If we are out, it’s because we want to have fun not be your therapist or your mother.
Tags: hair, men, sandals, Turn offs, Turn ons
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Easy Tips on Dressing for Success
Saturday, May 8th, 2010
There’s a lot of competition out there today and that’s why it is important to look professional while projecting confidence. Confidence plays an important role in succeeding. Looking the part makes a lasting impression. Maybe it’s unjust to judge a book by its cover, but we all do.
Here are are few easy tips to help you look professional and feel more confident.
Generally it is a good idea to wear something simple that is neat and clean.
Be sure it doesn’t need pressing. Don’t sacrifice style for comfort but add your own flair. Don’t wear clothing that is too big or too small.
Keep accessories in proportion to your body size. Don’t use more than 3 accessories or less than one.
Develop your own personal style but don’t over do it. I know a woman who wears a different brooch everyday. People remember her because she branded herself with an identifying mark. I also know a gentleman who wears different colored eye glasses each day to match what he is wearing. Don’t use tasteless identifying marks that offend or make others laugh.
Observe the way others dress in your work place and express your own signature style. Mix and match your suits tying in two colors with an accessory like a scarf, tie, or necklace. Make a statement with color combination’s.
Closed toe shoes work best. The heal shouldn’t be more than three inches high. Spikes, wedges, or flip flops, are inappropriate.
Keep your make up simple. Be as natural as possible and you will be recognized as having class and style. Don’t look like you are trying to hard. It’s usually a sign of over compensating in one area to make up what’s lacking in another.
Don’t carry an over sized hand bag even if it is in style. Have an organized med sized bag so you can find things easily.
Keep nail polish in a neutral color with no designs. They shouldn’t be excessively long or chewed down. A man’s nails should be kept sort and clean.
Don’t wear accessories that make noise like bangle bracelets or that are too big like over sized hoop earrings.
Not more that one inch of cleavage. More is too distracting.
Walk, sit, and speak with your shoulders back. Slouching makes you look insecure.
Put a smile on your face and don’t forget how terrific you are. Remind yourself every day. Find something you like about yourself and get into the habit of complimenting yourself.
Tags: Look Professional, Polish, Project Confdence, Style, Success
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Dress Sexier Without Sacrificing Your Modesty
Wednesday, May 5th, 2010
Dress sexy without looking sleazy. There’s a fine line between looking classy and looking trashy. Sexy doesn’t mean you have to reveal your body parts. Subtle sexy goes a long way and leaves a lasting impression. Add sizzle without sacrificing your modesty.
Black may be sexy but shiny metallics like gold, silver, copper and pewter add the wow factor.
Wear more skirts and dresses in soft fabrics. Be sure they are not too long or too short. If you opt for short, cover up on top. Low cut and very short are synonymous with sleazy. If you go longer, wear a pair of sexy heels and a fitted bodice.
A great pair of sunglasses adds mystery and an enticing look. You want to appear intriging.
Wear touchable fabrics like silk, soft suede’s, and delicate cottons.
Wear a red bra and panties. Even if no one sees them, you know you’re wearing them and you will exude your own sensuality.
No need to bare your breasts. Leave a little room for the imagination. It’s all about appearing suggestive not slutty. Just play peekaboo.
Find simple tops or dresses with a dramatic back. Nothing like a surprise as the heads turn.
Beautiful soft earrings that sweep the shoulder (no necklace) with a peasant top, looks soft, sexy and extremely feminine.
Pale lipsticks might be trendy but if they don’t light up your face, choose red or coral with a lip liner letting your lips steal all the attention. Don’t over do the rest of your make up.
Try a touch of exotic in your appearance. Exotic is attractive because it’s out of the ordinary and colorful. Something that is unusual is very striking.
Nothings sexier than a great pair of shoes. At any height, heels naturally sway the hips.
Tags: Classy vs. Trashy, Dress Sexier, Dresses, Exotic, Lipstick, metallic, Red Bra, Sexy, Silk, Sizzle, Sleazy, Sun Glasses
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How can a Wardrobe Consultant Benefit You?
Sunday, January 31st, 2010
Do you struggle to get dressed in the morning, feeling that no item in your closet will make you feel polished and confident? Are you unsure of the impression that your style or clothing communicates to others, whether at work or at play? Are you just plain sick and tired of making excuses? Beginning in your closet and then shopping at stores selected to fit your interests, I can provide an individualized plan to dressing stylishly that is true to your lifestyle and budget. You will not believe the difference it will make in your every day dressing routine. Relieve stress and get organized.
If you are a reluctant shopper, I will show you how to develop the skills you need to be savvy about your wardrobe. If, when you walk into a store, you feel instantly overwhelmed by the array of styles, cuts, and colors. I will teach you to spot the styles or cuts that will be the most flattering on you and make you feel like your best self. Invest in your self. You’re worth it!
Tags: consultations, investing in oyu, life time skills, looking good everyday, making an impression, on a budget, reluctant shopper, stree free dressing, stylists, Wardrobe
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New Years Resolution
Sunday, December 20th, 2009
Take Time for Yourself
So we all know what we should be doing to take better care of our selves; exercise, eat right, drink lots of water, eliminate bad habits and reduce stress – the key elements for feeling good and looking great. It’s about living healthier and aging gracefully. It’s about living in the healthiest way we possibly can.
Another important element in living healthy is feeling good about our selves in the now and exuding our own natural beauty. It’s about doing the best we can to look our best and gain more self confidence. No one can give you that and no one can ever take it away. It’s about accepting who we are and loving who we have become.
So how do we motivate ourselves to take better care of our precious gift of life? How do we love ourselves and continue to practice good habits religiously in our daily lives until it becomes a part of who we are and what we do. Once we decide to change our thoughts and our routine, then we will realize that it really doesn’t require a lot of effort to live a happy and healthy life.
All it requires is the right attitude. It’s all in our attitude and our personal perception or our self -image. A good practice is to be kind to yourself and understand how special you are. Take care of yourself in the same way you would your own child. You have to take care of yourself first before you can take care of others.
You can’t change who you are but you can change the way you feel about yourself or the way you look. Having a positive internal dialogue and feeling like you look good on the outside is what keeps you healthy on the inside. We are solely in charge of our own thoughts. Why not take time for your self and make the effort to look good. The rewards will be priceless.
It frustrates me to hear people say that they don’t have time to put into the way they look. It doesn’t take a lot of time. It takes caring about yourself. It’s like a woman who has remnants of nail polish on her fingernails. It takes less than a minute to remove the rest of the polish. At least if you don’t have the time to reapply, it will look clean and it will show that you care about how you look. Oh, and that goes for your toenails as well.
And guys, it’s really a turn off for women to see a man that doesn’t take care of himself. If you desperately need a haircut or a shave, make the time. You don’t look cool with stubbles when you are over 25. You just look scruffy and unkempt. Take the time you need to show the world you care about yourself. It will do wonders in attracting women who also take care of themselves. Both men and women love a person who looks and smells great. How you present your self is what you will attract.
Don’t try and find the time, take five or ten minutes a day for yourself and make an effort that will show you care about yourself. It will carry you through the entire day. The positive thoughts you have about yourself will attract and surround you with positive people as well as positive situations. It’s all about the law of attraction. And it works. What you put out is what you will get back. If you believe you look good, everyone around you will think the same way because you will own it because you feel it and it will show. Even through adversity it will help to strengthen you and give you more confidence.
Stop making excuses and start right now. Take control of being in charge of your own destiny. You can do it. Let me help motivate you in trying new techniques to looking your best and feeling good every single day.
Drinking lots of water makes your skin look better and doesn’t require strenuous effort, only continuous effort. Dressing well is the same. It is a continuous process of making the effort to look and feel your best.
With everything that is available to us in hair care, skin care, and fashion, there is no reason we shouldn’t look our best. There are many resources available to learn about what will enhance your look and what to wear to flatter your figure .
Remember, the best thing that always fits and makes you look your best is your smile  and compliments keep you smiling. Start by saying thank-you when someone compliments you on how good you look, instead of saying “No I don’t”. Get into the habit of being good to yourself and complimenting yourself everyday. You will soon feel more confident, have serenity and hope within yourself and your positive self-image will radiate your beauty. Then others around you will compliment you as well. And remember to compliment others as well and help them feel good too.
Let the world seen how beautiful you are on the inside by presenting yourself in a way that shows you care. Being kind and respecting others begins with how you treat yourself.
Begin the New Year right. Love yourself more and give yourself the time you need and deserve. Not only will you enjoy yourself more but others around you will also enjoy your company more as well.
Make that your 2010 New Years resolution. It will be a resolution worth working toward.
I wish you all a happy and healthy holiday season as well as joy and peace in the world.
Enjoy your loved ones. Be good to yourself. Love yourself and have a happy New Year.
Let 2010 be your year and make EVERY DAY a special occasion.
Tags: Accept Yourself, Aging Gacefully, Be Good, Be Happy & Healthy, Love Yourself, Make the Effort, Motivate Yourself, New Year Resolution, Take Care, Take Time
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Seven Seconds to Make an Impression
Tuesday, December 15th, 2009
Ladies,
I was recently working with a client who hired me to go shopping with her to find appropriate holiday outfits that would be trendy for her age. Remember there’s nothing worse than looking like you are trying to hard.
We went shopping and the things she had in mind would have been appropriate but would also, in my eyes, be screaming, BORING. Most women would take the traditional no brainer approach of going “safe” in fear of standing out too much, but remember that most women think the same.
Whether they blame not having enough time to prepare for an event, the lack of knowledge or the fact they they have lost sight of who they are- they don’t have a clue of what works for their body style any more and the women over 45 are sill stuck in what “used to” work for them. They too take the no brainer approach and play it safe.
If it worked for you 10 or 20 years ago it must work now. Right?
Wrong. Your body is not the same even if you weight the same. The styles have changed and even if you wore it when it was in style, doesn’t necessarily mean you should be wearing it again, (as you blow off the dust and cross your fingers that it could work). Why fight the inevitable. Your body changes with age, whether you are in your twenties going into your thirties or you’re in your forties approaching your fifties, etc.
And ladies, it doesn’t stop there, many women over 60 have made the effort and have sought alternatives to fight the aging process. According to the NPD Group, a leading market research firm, women over 65 spent $14.7 billion on apparel in 1999, almost the identical amount spent by the 25-to-34-year-old women the industry is fixated on. More significant, spending by the older women leapt 12 percent from the previous year, compared with a minuscule tenth of a percent rise in spending by the younger women. ”Older women see themselves as generally about 10 years younger than their chronological age,” said David Demko, a gerontologist in West Palm Beach, Fla., and the publisher of Age Venture News, a Web site for retirees. What is more, he said, ”they tend to use fashion as a personality cosmetic, telling themselves, ‘I’m going to go out and dress in a way that represents they way I feel.’ It’s not just about anti-aging serums. It’s about what you are wearing and what you are saying internally and expressing externally. What you are wearing when you are saying something is more important than what you are saying.
I told my sister Christine once that it wasn’t what you are saying it was more about how you are saying what you are saying. Well what’s more important than that is what you are wearing. People see you before you speak and they assess your personality in just 7 seconds. Yes in only 7 seconds they have already formed an opinion of you based on what you are wearing and how you are caring yourself.
The opinion they form is what sticks for the duration of the time they know you. It sticks for an ENTIRE life time.
Tags: Appropriate outfits, Boring yet safe, Impressions, No-brainer, Wear what you say, What you wear, Women over 60
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Looking Good is Feeling Good!
Tuesday, September 22nd, 2009
Looking good is feeling good!
If there is one thing that I have learned in my dressing both men and women, its that the individual who feels good about the way they he/she looks is an empowered individual. People who like the way they look exude beauty and project confidence. The key to looking good is recognizing your body style and understanding which styles flatter your body shape. It is the art of learning the art of dressing which means recognizing the whole package from head to toe. Mastering the element of this art is the key to gaining control over this path of empowerment.
How many of us are guilty of having a closet full of clothes yet we still have nothing to wear? Busy schedules and emotional attachments get in the way of the much needed weeding out. We usually hang on to the clothing that doesn’t fit any more, vowing to some day be able to get back into them. And, we hang on to the clothing that reminds us of what we used to look like or how great we felt when we wore them.
We go shopping and there is nothing to buy because the racks of styles appear too young or too old. So we buy nothing or another pair of black pants, which match the other five pair we already own, or if you are like me- another pair of shoes, which always fit. The end result is wearing a handful of comfortable, easy to put together outfits (usually the way we initially purchased them) again, and again; never changing, never getting out of our comfort zone. Why, because we get caught in a vicious cycle of being stuck and not knowing what to do.
Breaking out of this cycle is a matter of being ready, willing, and open to learning some simple lessons in the art of concept dressing. Each and every individual has the ability to attain the empowerment of looking good regardless of age, weight, or lifestyle. At the core, concept dressing is about creating balance and proportion. The answer is not covering up. It is about gaining awareness of your body type and selecting styles that accentuate the positive areas and masking the imperfections. The ultimate goal is to be your self, be comfortable, and be in style.
Looking good is feeling good. To be empowered, individuals need to make the conscious effort to invest time in them selves. Only the level of commitment limits the payoff.
Tags: feeling great everyday, hello new me, Looking Good
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